4 common ways self-sabotage is holding your fitness back, and 5 ways to fix it

The only thing between you and your weight loss goals is you.

The only thing between you and your weight loss goals is you.

What type of workout person are you? At 28, I’m always talking about becoming the best version of you and never comparing yourself with others. An important part of this process involves taking a step back, analysing your behaviour and asking yourself the question, is your own pattern sabotaging your good intentions?

If there’s one thing I’ve learnt in my 16 years as a trainer in the fitness industry, it’s that the only thing getting in the way between you and achieving your weight-loss goals is you. Not your leg injury or your busy schedule, but your mindset.

If any of this behaviour sounds all too familiar, you’re probably a culprit of self sabotage:

You put up mental barriers

You constantly tell yourself “I can’t do that exercise” or “I can’t cook that healthy meal because I hate eggplant”.

You cheat yourself, not treat yourself

You may have worked hard and have started to see results, but let your treats get out of hand and this essentially undoes all your good work.

When treats get out of hand...

When treats get out of hand…

You give up way too easily

“It’s raining outside so my run is off the table” is your most frequently used excuse.

You put it off, time and time again

When “I’ll start tomorrow” turns into “I’ll start Monday” all too often. Self-sabotaging behaviour can stem from laziness, but often also from a place of fear. We’re scared we won’t be able to get there, so we just don’t bother at all. It’s when we start to break down those mental barriers that we can really start to make the journey towards our fitness goals, and this is a totally empowering process.

If self sabotage is holding you back, focus on these types of behaviour:

Make yourself accountable

This can be as simple as identifying what you want to achieve, writing it down, and putting it in a place as a constant reminder. To take it one step further, recruit a training buddy. When you have someone working beside you, you’ll not only feel encouraged to keep going but also more accountable to turn up to training sessions. Let’s face it: no one wants to be the one who bails and leaves a buddy high and dry.

Set realistic goals

Start by setting smart, realistic goals that you know you’re capable of achieving. Then it feels like the mountain isn’t too high to climb and you’re way more likely to succeed.

Plan AND prepare

One of my favourite sayings is, “When you fail to plan, you plan to fail”, and when it comes to breaking self-sabotaging habits, it’s absolutely key. Preparing your meals for the week and scheduling in times to work out with a friend will make it that much harder for you to wriggle out of your commitment!

Make choices, not rules

We’re more likely to sabotage our goals if we make our favourite things strictly off bounds. We always want what we can’t have, right? Try not to set strict rules. Instead, make a conscious decision that your actions will always reflect your goals and don’t contradict them.

Your own goals - and staying accountable to them - are crucial.

Your own goals – and staying accountable to them – are crucial.

Believe in yourself

I’m always saying that if you’re in the mindset of hoping to get into shape, then you haven’t truly taken responsibility. When you believe you will get into shape because the buck stops with you, that is when you have true success.

If one or more of these behaviour types rings true, don’t worry; you’re not on your own. Just focus on identifying which is holding you back the most and, slowly but surely, work them out of your system.



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